Successful sleep teaching requires you to have a mentality that is looking at this with a ‘short-term pain for long-term gain’ ethos.
When I speak with parents who are considering sleep training, or teaching as I prefer to call it, I believe a lot of parents get this suggestion when I make it to them. When they hear that yes, there could be a few days of hard times as you give your child space and guidance they need to learn a new skill but the result overshadows any of the hardship those couple of days brings, and most definitely the current situation that they are finding themselves in.
When I speak to parents who are still considering sleep teaching, I find myself explaining it for them better so they can understand this. For some parents out there, they have a hard-tough time breaking even out of or free of their current desperate sleep routines. For example, they have found themselves to be nursing to sleep, or out of necessity co-sleeping. I know, understand and agree to stop doing all of any of these things can feel tough.
Even for those parents who want to. The simplest way to explain this is that these sleep associations (nursing or rocking to sleep, as an example and most commonly used methods) can only provide the situation with a “quick fix” for the sleepless baby or toddler. Sure, and yes of course I understand, it’s not at all perfect.
However, at least it is providing at least some sleep for both the child and parent in that short-term period. It is exactly the same in those situations where unwanted co-sleeping – I totally get that is not ideal for most parents, but at least at that moment, it is allowing everyone to get that much-needed sleep.
What I ask parents to remember is this simple fact, that yes, I will be honest, in some cases sleep teaching will create some “short-term pain”, we need to focus on the end result and the long-term gains.
These are huge.
Yes, for 95% of families who decide that correcting your baby or toddler’s sleep associations result in creating a few more exhausting nights and days at first, the long-term results and gains out ways this for 99% of families. As by the end of the program the long-term gain of having a child who sleeps through the night and naps well outweighs all the tough times.
To be honest, just about every family I have supported and work alongside with this has found and agreed on our farewell call, that every moment of the short-term pain has been worth it to gain this long-term result and that it is worth the work!
Together we can succeed & you will look back at what your family has achieved with great pride.