Part 2 – my baby won’t sleep without being patted – Help

So there comes the point when you find yourself thinking about how you are going to be able to stop patting your baby to sleep. As you have become aware that they’ve become or are becoming extremely dependent on it occurring each time sleep needs to happen.


Firstly, let us take a moment to congratulate you on surviving past the first three to four months – you made it!


In my methods and ethos,

You can start to think about being able to consider being able to put your baby down, awake when they are showing signs of being ready for sleep—allowing them to do the final that part – fall asleep all on their own.


OK – so this should be like most elements in parenting, quickly done, right?
Yes, this time, it can be very accurate ? When you use my advanced side settling/patting technique, it will become straightforward for you to slowly start reducing the amount and length of the patting time use quite quickly.


It is best to start each night’s time by limiting your ‘pat time.’ By doing this slowly and reducing it down each night, you will find yourself quickly in the situation where you can stop when your wee one is still awake – by that, I mean! The best way I have found this to work for parents is to when you are ready, stop patting. The important part is to leave your hand exactly where it is, on their bottom. You do this for a minute or so, solely for reassurance. Then slowly and gently, you can leave the room with the belief and confidence they will be doing the final part of falling asleep all on their own.


Should however they cry, I do recommend that you allow them the opportunity to try and resettle themselves by leaving them for only a few minutes. If they don’t, then return to the room and redo the patting technique again. Again, not until they are sleeping altogether, but almost, so they still try to put themselves to sleep in the last stages.


I have also found to have white noise machines on with a small lovey is also really helpful. Babies do love to cuddle things, especially when they smell you. It is beneficial and gets the best results when they use everyday items they have and will associate with a calm sleep. A simple example is your patting rhythm slowly reducing. Other techniques also work for self-settling.


I want to say now that the point that my holistic, gentle family-focused.

Which are not anti-touch, cuddling, ignore & let them cry. The opposite is more accurate with my methods. You wish to and enjoy cuddling your baby to sleep. Let’s be honest, why wouldn’t you. They’re gorgeous & cuddles with what we all love. Or perhaps you have your techniques all sorted and in place to settle your baby, which is fantastic.


If, however, you still feel you want a little more assistance. Maybe a program with a much speeder settling process and result, then there are certainly other options. By choosing whichever way suits you best, it allows yourself as parents/caregivers more time (and of course your much-needed sleep) yourselves; then there are certainly options.


For a self-settling,

For a self-settling, after four months, in particular, it should be considered as a skill. One, you will have to help your baby learn. Like any skill we learn, most of these do not merely occur or develop overnight. As with many other things that face your baby ahead of them in their life. They will need a little bit of coaching, gentle push, and encouragement. More importantly a little bit of space to learn to do it themselves. The best-laid plan with a realistic strategy, consistency, and proven result. My technique will be the best way forward for you and your family. The great news is by allowing me to help you with this; we can change the outcome and situation to a positive one for everyone.


Please believe me when I say there are most definitely other options. That can teach your baby this other than leaving them to ‘crying it out’. In other blogs, I provide more tip on how to have your baby gently teach themselves to go to sleep. And best of all of without any daunting battles involved.

The best way forward now


After reading this you’ve made the decision. The best way forward for your family would be for me to create a more detailed and personalized program. Focusing on your family ethos while I offer you support throughout. Then one of my personalized Sleep Programs will work best for you.


After reading this, you feel or wish some further help with the sleep of your baby or toddler’s sleep. Please reach out by booking a call with myself. I will help you by ensuring you all have the information you need. To allow and enable you to implement positive change into your family life. By the means of my holistic, evidence-based Sleep Programs.
I look forward to hearing from you on your journey to great sleep once again.