Frequently Asked Questions

Baby Sleep Consultant in Surrey

Do babies know how and when to sleep when they are born?

While babies will obviously need sleep from day one, they aren’t born with a structured sleeping pattern. Like many parts of their early development (including things like potty training and learning to talk), they have the capability to structure their sleep – but they need to learn it. That’s why newborns tend to struggle sleeping through the night or for long periods of time. When they wake up, they don’t immediately know to put themselves back to sleep. Instead, they often become afraid, which is why they cry when they wake up.

My child always seems to wake for bottles in the night, and it’s the only way to get her back to sleep. Why is that?

It’s very common for babies to wake up regularly throughout the night, and many infants are fed through the night until they’re about 10 months old. That said, when your baby comes to expect feeding when they wake up and start crying, it becomes increasingly difficult to get them to fall asleep without it. The same is true of rocking or cuddling your baby back to sleep. Once they expect it, they aren’t going to learn how to fall asleep on their own.

Will there be crying if I follow you sleep training methods?

The issue of “crying it out” is a hotly debated topic, but I believe in a sensible approach. Sometimes, letting your baby cry for a little bit to learn that they can put themselves back to sleep is perfectly fine. However, there are some babies who, because of their personalities, are much more likely to refuse to fall back asleep on their own. In addition, many parents aren’t comfortable with listening to their little ones cry and howl until they fall back asleep. Ultimately, while there might be some crying involved, I always prioritize the wishes and preferences of the parents while keeping your baby’s personality and disposition in mind.

I’ve been waiting to see if my child will just grow out of their bad sleep habits… Is that possible?

Sure, there are certainly children who learn to sleep better over time, especially if they have a good bedtime routine and aren’t developing bad habits along the way. However, the other side of the situation is that, if they don’t, their bad sleep habits can follow them for a long time. Many adults who have bad sleep habits were once babies and children with bad sleep habits. At the end of the day, this is how I think about it… If your child is sick, would you just wait for it to go away? Or would you take them to the doctor and proactively work to remedy their illness? The latter, of course! And, knowing how important good sleep is to the health and development of your little one, why would you take a wait and see approach when there are viable solutions – like sleep training – available to you? Of course, every family is different and some have heard negative things about sleep training. Nevertheless, studies have proved its effectiveness and many pediatricians recommend getting help from a certified sleep trainer if your baby is struggling to sleep well.

How do I know if it’s time for professional help?

Not every baby is going to struggle long term with their sleeping, which is why parents should absolutely try to remedy the situation on their own. If you read my blog or my free hints and tips, there are a lot of good things to try to straighten your little one’s sleeping out. But when is it time to seek out help from someone like me? When you feel like you’ve tried things on your own and it’s not working, especially if you’re feeling worn out and desperate. Like I mentioned above, the methods that I use are proven to work and generally have a 95% success rate. So you know that there’s a solution here, it’s just a matter of getting in touch and moving forward when you recognize that you need help.

How long will it take to see improvement in my child’s sleep?

While it ultimately depends on the personality of your child, as well as how bad the situation currently is, most parents I work with generally start to see great improvements within a few days. Night 5 is often when there is a major turning point in nighttime sleeping. That said, it sometimes takes up to a few weeks, so I always make sure to prepare parents for realistic expectations. Also, if your baby is struggling with taking regular, consistent naps throughout the day on top of their nighttime sleeping problems, that might take a bit longer since I prioritize getting the nighttime sleeping habits straightened out first.

Is there a best age to start sleep training?

Usually between 4-6 months is the best age for sleep training because babies at that age have developed the tools needed to organize their own sleep. It’s much easier for them to fall asleep on their own compared to newborns, and they tend to be more flexible than toddlers. That said, there are plenty of things that parents of newborns can do to set their babies up for great sleep habits, and parents with toddlers can also get great results with sleep training, although it tends to take a little bit longer.

Can my baby sleep with me?

Co-sleeping is one of those things that is not necessarily bad to do here and there. The problems start when your little one begins to depend on it to fall asleep. When it becomes a persistent habit like this, it can lead to other problems, such as your child not being able to sleep independently at all. It can also hurt your family dynamics, including causing a lack of alone time for you and your partner.

Can I use your services if I don’t live in Cyprus?

Absolutely! While I do in-home sleep training and many parents find that valuable, the majority of what I do – including developing a step-by-step plan for your little one and regularly following up after we get started – can be done via phone or skype. Also, even if you don’t live in Cyprus, I might be able to accommodate an in-home visit depending on your location. Just get in touch to find out!